We collided at a mark with damage — how can BOTH boats be disqualified?

Rule 14 requires every boat — including the right-of-way boat — to avoid contact if reasonably possible. The keep-clear boat kept no lookout and broke Rule 10 and Rule 14. But the right-of-way boat could have luffed to avoid a collision that caused damage, and didn't — so she's penalised under Rule 14 too. Right of way is not a right to collide. (World Sailing Case 26.)

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<p><a href="https://sailing.kiwi.nz/windward-mark/case-26-both-boats-disqualified/">Source: Sailing Kiwi</a></p>

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